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[Feb. 3rd, 2005|09:51 am]
Naturally, I am on some pregnancy e-mailing lists.

With most of the list members, limits of 1-3 children are commonly heard, sometimes 4.

But OH MY GOD... you get the uncommon person who wants 5-6! Even more rarely, someone who wants to be like an old-fashioned Mormon! You know, anywhere from 10-15 or so. (No offense to any wandering Mormons who see this.)

I get dizzy thinking about that. I mean honestly... is the reality of overpopulation going over their heads? The ramifications of that? With all the fucking hoopla about adoption being SUPERIOR to abortion or birth control, why don't these people adopt? Or just run a daycare center? Run Little League?


[User Picture]From: xochitl
2005-02-03 07:16 am (UTC)
My best friend when I was a kid came from a Mormon family... she had six siblings. x.x Maybe that was what made me realize that I didn't ever want children, haha. Even if I do, I'm 200% certain that I will adopt.

The irony, though? If I went to a doctor and said I wanted to pop out 10 kids, they'd dope me up on fertility drugs without a second thought. But if I went to a doctor to ask about getting sterilized (which I've been wanting to do since I started my period at age 14) they'd give me a lecture about "You might change your mind!" Uh, I might change my mind about 10 kids, too. Which would be a worse decision to regret, I wonder?
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[User Picture]From: shinwachou
2005-02-03 07:29 am (UTC)
Yeah, the injustice surrounding a person's decision to have kids (or not at all) is astounding. I have heard of a few people whose doctors were hesitant to sterilize them, even after 1 or 2 kids!

There's a similar issue with IUD's, also. Not identical, but similar. (As far as doctors giving them to childless women, I mean.)

We all know I can't stay decided on a career choice (although I'm finally in a distance-education program for medical billing), but it would be nice to get the education to be a women's health nurse practitioner. :) hehehe Sterilize the world!

Eh, just kidding. Kind of. ;)
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[User Picture]From: xochitl
2005-02-03 10:40 am (UTC)
After we move up north, Brian is planning to seek out a doctor in Canada because they supposedly will give vasectomies to men as long as they are 25 or older (and preferably if they are engaged or married). People are crazy if they think I'm going to be on birth control until menopause. XD
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From: lin_bai_mao
2005-02-03 08:38 am (UTC)
Yeha, you're right about over populiation.

If anyone wants that many kids they should adopt, really. There are enough kids without parents on the planet already.
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[User Picture]From: shinwachou
2005-02-03 10:15 am (UTC)
If they want 2 of their own, super. Beyond that, it's like... hello, adopt? Angelina Jolie is my fucking role model, haha.

*pounces and licks* ;)

I wub j00.
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From: lin_bai_mao
2005-02-03 11:20 am (UTC)
yeaaah. You know one of my uncles has over 7 kids, and no offense to him but I don't think he shouldn't have that many.. especially with the woman he spreaded genes with.

One of his 5 year olds asks for beer..
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[User Picture]From: shinwachou
2005-02-03 10:26 am (UTC)
I hate using the term "pro-life" to describe the anti-BC, anti-abortion people... I prefer calling them "anti-commonsense" (no I really just thought of that).

I don't like using that term to describe them, because it makes the pro-choice people look like we're anti-life, and we're not.
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[User Picture]From: xochitl
2005-02-03 10:37 am (UTC)
So true. This girl in class was giving a pro-life speech and I said, "The problem with the pro-life movement is that you don't see them donating money to adoption centers and taking in foster kids. They just picket clinics and treat pregnant women like lepers. The term pro-life apparently does not extend to people who aren't unborn." She didn't really have a response other than "Adoption is good.. I might adopt a kid someday." x.x
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[User Picture]From: crysalis
2005-02-03 02:52 pm (UTC)
“There's a similar issue with IUD's, also. Not identical, but similar. (As far as doctors giving them to childless women, I mean.”

Funny I read this today, as I just go an IUD implanted today! Heh. I am a childless woman (in case you didn’t know, j/k.) The reason some doctors are apprehensive to give IUD’s to childless women is because they can cause serious problems (and even sterility) if the woman contracts certain STD’s while using the IUD. They like to only give them to women who are in long-term, monogamous relationships. I did tons of research online before getting my IUD, and I read all sorts of stuff that said that women who haven’t given birth are more likely to expel the IUD, and the insertion will be harder. For me personally, my insertion was a BREEZE! It didn’t even hurt. A tiny bit of cramping and it was over with in a minute. I asked my doctor about the expelling thing, and she said she’s never seen one expel. So, yeah. Oh, and the contracting an STD thing isn’t really an issue with me considering I do have a long term boyfriend and don’t plan on sleeping around. :P I would have just gone on the pill, but I’m unable to go on anything hormonal, so obviously it's not an option. I think this will be much more convenient (and cheaper) in the long run anyhow. Don’t ask me why I just told you (and anybody reading this) all this, but yeah.

As far as the having tons of children thing, I personally think that’s completely ridiculous. Sure, I can understand wanting to have 1 or 2 (or even 3 tops) of your own, to carry on the genes, experience child birth, etc… But, if you want THAT large of a family, I agree that adoption makes way more sense. There are so many kids that need a home, the world is so over populated… we do NOT need people popping out 10+ children… heh.
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[User Picture]From: shinwachou
2005-02-03 05:11 pm (UTC)

j/k <3 ;)

I can't get an IUD inserted until 2 months post-partum. Boo!

I understand everything you mentioned about IUDs. If you didn't know, my residence is PlannedParenthood.org, ROFL.

I don't know how doctors are in Canada, but here, I think even if you're in a serious monogamous relationship (married or not), they hesitate to give it to childless women. Well, in any case, I just run into stupid doctors, anyway.

You told me, because you love me! Mwahaha? =P
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[User Picture]From: crysalis
2005-02-03 06:52 pm (UTC)
HA! I actually told my mom already ;)

lol, and YES I do love you :P I've put up with you for this long, haven't I? j/k.

Yeah see, my doctor (gyno) didn't hesitate at all. She didn't even mention anything about the fact that I haven't had a child, etc. The only reason I found out about that all was research online. I think the medical industry in general is much more lax in Canada. It is proven that there is absolutely no reason that a childless woman can't use an IUD, so it's retarded that they hesitate to do it. I'm loving it so far, although it HAS only been a day, haha!
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