|"Only love can make a family."
||[Jan. 21st, 2005|08:30 pm]
PPFA's president titled "Behind Every Choice is a Story". It's a book I can't put down.I recently purchased a book written by |
I think this is my favorite passage from the entire book:
Reverend Philip A. Wogaman of Foundry United Methodist Church, Washington DC:
First, responsible parenting is a work of divine love. I do not think there is any human task more important than the procreation and nurturing of the young. Some people conclude from this that there should be as many new lives as possible, since there's no condition worse than the condition of never having been born. But God didn't create us with limitless potential. If children are to be what God intends them to be, they must be surrounded by love and each given the opportunity to fulfill their potentialities. Real love for children means having the number of children that one can care for responsibly and lovingly. Some aren't suited by temperament or age; sometimes external conditions are not yet right. Bringing every conceivable child into existence (the pun is intended) is not "pro-life": it is certainly not pro-love.
I speak of this, not only as a theologian and an ethicist but as a pastor. How often I have attended to people who wished to have children but couldn't and, in a few instances, women who worked through very difficult pregnancies, sometimes spending months in bed in order to make a healthy delivery possible. In two or three instances, either the pregnancy was not sustainable or the baby was unable to survive. In two such cases, the next pregnancy was altogether different. Sometimes I wish the so-called "pro life" advocates could see the deeply spiritual dimensions of this and know that real love of life means taking the realities seriously into account. Incidentally, I speak of this not only as a theologian, an ethicist and a pastor, but also as a grandfather. And you need to know that this Sunday I am to baptize our latest granddaughter, born into a home where she is deeply cherished and where she'll receive the nurturing for her to grow into womanhood as the person God intends her to be.