|the alternation of generations -extermination- (XD)
||[Aug. 15th, 2004|02:57 pm]
Oh god, why did I ever join this (specific) mailing list?
"TeenageMomsForThe21stCentury" -- I assumed it would contain members who were mature, but I guess not.
They think they're so special, some claim to be married but most are still living with parents on their support. Some (as far as I've seen) are young as 15.
They still have that typical middle/high school mindset, and it drives me crazy.
If, down the road, my child has their own children... it's one thing if they're 19 or 20 (maybe 18), but it's something else when they're 14-17. I'd definitely be adamant about birth control during those years.
There's one teenager who's a father to four, and a girl who must (at least) be in her late 20's, who's a mom to 11. A lot of these girls (and the rare guys) want or have 3+ kids. o_O; Maybe that was acceptable in the year 1000, but (while I don't say anything) I frown upon families with 4+ kids (3 stretches my "raising eyebrows" radar).
"Birth control is against my religion." -- Uh, YOU'RE against my 'religion'. heh.
I have yet to understand why people have more than 2 children. One to 'replace' each parent when they pass away seems logical. Ten to help contribute to overpopulation does not. ^^;
But then again I don't want any children, so perhaps I am biased..
My grandmother on my Dad's side had 12 kids. Insanity.
My grandmother on my dad's side had 5 kids.
My grandmother on my mom's side had 6, and tried to abort the 6th (unsuccessfully).
It happens. I have 3 siblings and we were all very much loved. :P
More than 3 = child abuse, that's great. :P
I think what you said is right, but i'm also worried about overpopulation issues. =\
Meagan, she wasn't saying all families with 4+ kids don't get equal attention and such, but generally, I don't think it's too common (especially anymore).
Frankly, I find that comment offensive. I'm from a family of 4 kids. None of us were "attention deprived". None of us were "abused".
Don't assume that just because you're limited in some way, that other people are too.
The families I know that suffered from financial problems keep taking trips to Mexico and Europe, keep buying new cars, keep spending at the casino... they haven't realized that you can't support a life like that when you have 5 or more people instead of two. If you're still thinking like a teenager, that you should have every new toy that comes your way, you shouldn't be parenting kids, much less 3 or more of them.
Emotional problems, in my experience, boil up when there isn't someone who can't be home with the kids. This happens either in single parent families, or in families where *drumroll* both parents are working to support an expensive lifestyle. My mom stopped working when she was pregnant with my oldest brother, and didn't start working again until this last year, when my younger brother is now 16.
Even off a single income family, we managed to each have a computer for each of us, at least two (older) vehicles at all times, and lots of love for the whole family.
I think you're quite right in that, if you wish to live a certain lifestyle, there are things you're going to have to give up-- be it children or "new toys" or traveling. Myself, I'm more likely to give up the former unless I'm wealthy enough to afford both. My only point of dissent here is that this is not an "immature" mindset. Having children is something not everyone should do, and the children who are neglected in the above mentioned situations are the ones birthed by people who would have made better, say, travelers than parents.
It's unfortunate that people don't realize that they do have a choice-- most of the time.
You know, my parents both come from large families themselves... but even my MOM agrees with me that more than 2-3 is kinda overdoing it (especially nowadays). =\
For families in this day and age, who actually have more than 2-3, you know, I don't judge their entire person... parents of 4+ families may be very nice, and can even agree with them on many things... but I'll still look down upon the "4+ kids" factor in their lives. I think you can look down upon something, and still love/like the person. It's not necessarily bad, as long as you don't go to extremes over it.
I'm from a family for 4.
My parents started having kids in their late 30s, the last of which Mom had when she was about 46.
Frown all you want.
See my response to "confusednazgul", in response to you.